Saving Marriage, Family and Community


A music celebrity is applauded for deserting the mother of his children, claiming that “just because they have children together” doesn’t mean that he has any responsibility to her. Public school children take part in the “Magic Circle Exercise,” where each is for one day proclaimed “great,” bathed in praise by classmates and then forced to chant his own praises in front of the whole class. In such a generation, each self’s goals, desires and esteem must trump those of others. The notion of self-sacrifice seems inexplicable and pointless, except perhaps to further enhance one’s self-image. Yet what if you must lose your life to find it, what if a fulfilling love can be experienced only by laying down your life for another? This would mean that the ambitions, justifications and therapeutic cures of the “Me Generation” block the door to genuine relationships. This book, citing a wide array of sociological and psychological surveys and statistics, clears away many obstacles to open that door. It shows that authority and externally imposed power are not synonymous—genuine authority is itself an expression of, and can only operate within, relationships centered in sacrificial love. Yet Saving Marriage, Family and Community does more than expose and uncover—it shows how only a lasting change brings lasting relationships.